There’s a joke floating around saying that relationships are like algebra–you look at your X and wonder Y. As you can imagine, people love to forward this to me. And like most jokes–it’s based in reality. Before I met my ex I had plenty of boyfriends. (I hate that term but there it is–boyfriends). The… Continue reading Why Did I Marry Him Anyway?
A few years ago we finally got a dog. My kids had always wanted one. The delay was two-fold; where I grew up dogs stayed out of the house and slept in the barn. The idea of having a dog INSIDE my house freaked me out a little. My ex doesn’t like dogs (or any… Continue reading Telling the Kids You’re Getting Divorced
In collaborative divorce you avoid court. I wanted to avoid court very much–it just sounds like a bad place, no? Also, there’s no official “filing” for divorce. No one was served papers like you see on TV. That moment where they’re handed the blue envelope and they look all sad and think, “damn…” Mediation is… Continue reading Collaborative Divorce Team Meetings
A few years ago I did a half marathon with friends. I was probably on my 4th margarita when I agreed to this. I’m not a fan of running. When I got back from the half marathon I was not feeling “right.” I saw my doctor and he said, “you just did a half marathon.… Continue reading Things You Think About
Like I said before, we didn’t tell the kids until he was nearly ready to move out. I wasn’t sure how they’d react (we never fought in front of them. Actually, we almost never argued–but that’s a story for another day). But I didn’t know if my kids would be really upset by the idea… Continue reading I Might Hate You Now