I am honest with my family–unless it’s easier to tell them what they want to hear. Then, I totally lie. During the lovely week in the Adirondacks, I had planned various activities, and my parents drove over several times to visit. One day I was out with my daughter. When I got back I saw… Continue reading Telling Your Family You’re Getting Divorced
There’s a lot of things you have to split, share, give up, mistakenly throw away, cut with scissors, or light on fire when you decide to divorce. If you have kids–sharing custody is a huge one. In my case custody wasn’t a battle at all. I’m not sure it was even a discussion. The kids… Continue reading Yeah, But, Who Gets the Friends?
See, when I realized the right thing to do was to divorce him I put a plan together–save some money for the lawyer, find a full time job (I was going to need health benefits) and get all our debts paid off. I’m an organized and logical person. Then he did one of his classic… Continue reading Texting
I have a very good memory and it’s served me well–it also remembers bad stuff, and that part sucks. When I finally could take no more and told him I wanted a divorce he told me I wasn’t thinking straight–I wasn’t sleeping well, was too stressed, not healthy, probably depressed. I sat in my chair,… Continue reading Shit People Say
This was the number one question I was asked by EVERYONE when I finally said, “I want out.” It’s a reasonable question; I admit. I’m a fairly private person so answering it wasn’t something I wanted to do–especially since I knew that it would be met with arguments as to why I was making a… Continue reading Why Are You Getting Divorced?
I started this blog so I could tell you how divorce works. Will I give you legal advice? No way. Just–what really happened between me and my almost ex, and all the others involved (kids, lawyers, extended family, and friends). Also, PLEASE do not offer ME legal advice. All divorces are different and I have… Continue reading Getting a Divorce